What Japanese Men Want Based on the mass media, the ideal Japanese woman is cute, sexy, and quiet.
He doesn’t really like her to be overly opinionated.
Then the real question is this: what is the difference between successful and unsuccessful people?
Fortunately, thanks to zoomingjapan, I have a good sample of comments on this.
In particular, non-Japanese guys tend to disagree because they don’t think it’s easy to date Japanese girls. Overall, does it mean that it’s hard to date Japanese people regardless of your gender? If you are in a foreign country with a completely different culture, it is logical that you might have a hard time dating.
Dating often involves a lot of hidden rules and non-verbal cues.
An athletic build and tanned skin are considered attractive and desirable. She wants to be given presents and shown a good time.
It is commonly believed that dating in Japan is easy for non-Asian (particularly white) men and hard for women.
I came across a blog post by zoomingjapn, a German girl living in Japan, writing about dating in Japan as a foreigner. She writes, ‘It is comparably easy for a western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan’, but ‘it is extremely tough to find a date as a foreign woman here in Japan.’ Her story is interesting in itself but the most interesting part of the article is the huge number of comments gets – 162 comments (or about 30,000 words! A lot of people who commented actually disagree with her.
Japan and the United States have different views of dating and marriage. Marriage has a long history in Japan, a history that is based on gender roles influenced heavily by Confucian views. If you want to learn more about gender role expectations in Japan, gender roles of women, and how China’s Confucius has even influenced anime, follow these links. The rules of dating, courtship, vary across cultures. There are a few key ideas that are identical to dating in Japan and in the United States.
This article will focus on Japan’s dating culture and marriage attitudes. These ideas are good advice for anyone seeking to develop friendships and romantic relationships: I will expand on the third point.